Thank you everyone who chimed in on the what constitutes publishing? discussion.

I think when it comes down to it, if an editor/publication makes demands I consider unreasonable, requirements that unnecessarily limit what I can do with my own work -- especially considering what these editors/publications are offering in return (no $$$, small readership) -- that's an editor/publication my work can do without. I don't care how gorgeous and charming the boy is -- if he's a control freak, tells me what I can and cannot eat, how I should dress, tries to select my friends -- well, I'm going to the prom stag, probably have a better time anyhow -- and he'd probably be happier with a girl who's so gosh darn happy to receive any attention she'd happily trade in her own personality and convictions. She's out there, waiting for him -- they deserve to be together.

I say that as an editor/publisher who isn't interested in reprinting work that's already appeared in other magazines. As someone who gets more than a little bent out of shape when sim. submitters don't bother informing me when work is accepted elsewhere. This isn't a screw your editor/publisher post. No, kiss your editors/publishers. Acknowledge and appreciate those who have supported and promoted your work, likely for no payment or benefit other than the satisfaction of supporting and promoting something one believes is wonderful.

And if you don't agree with a magazine's policies -- don't waste your or their time. If some boy offers to take me on an all expense paid trip but beforehand requires I wear a Princess Leia bikini and a hot pink Hitler mustache or hell, merely requires I attend a one hour timeshare pitch -- I don't care how badly I'm jonesing for a weekend in Vegas. I'm not going to say: "Let me think about it." I'm not going with him. Period. I'll find my own transporation.