If your house is a mess and in disrepair, it ain't my job, or the collective job of any group or groups, to clean and fix it up for you.

If your house has always been this way, for like decades, it's not such a far out assumption that you're content to live that way. I'm not gonna bang down your door with the slim hope you'll allow me to dine among your cobwebs. I don't care how fancy your silverware and china might be.